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Bullying exists in the gay world. Yup.

by Ryan Shea

Bullying
Bullying
Credit to: bullyingproject.com

This is an article that I could write a whole novel on, heck turn in into a series like “Twilight” or something.  I could also write from an extremely pessimistic and somewhat “bitchy” point of view, yet I want my point to get across without sounding like that.  So I will do my best to stay focused and not go off the narrow end of anger and frustration towards the gay community.

As the title of this article states, bullying really does exist in the gay world.  Whether people want to admit it or not, it is there, and it’s rampant. I find this to be more true in big cities like New York and Atlanta and not so much in towns and smaller, lesser known communities.  For five years I lived in Providence, Rhode Island for school.  There is where I truly was able to be myself and out, and actually found a really great group of guys who weren’t judgemental and had me apart of their circle without judgement or negativity.

I, foolishly, thought the same when I moved back to New York in 2009 and attempted to do the same here in terms of making friends.  The result was completely the opposite.  I learned that in big cities like this, you have to draw a very fine line in order to get respect and a good group of friends along with that.  If you come across as too friendly and nice, you are viewed as a huge slut.  If you come across as reserved and quiet, you are seen as a wallflower or a dickhead.  Either way, it’s not easy.  I learned that the hard way when I started becoming friends with a certain group of guys who within a month turned on me, and I saw first hand just how truly vile people can really be.

I never was bullied in high school or growing up, in fact I was pretty well liked by the majority of my school because I was outgoing and just plain nice to people.  This experience made me think of the people, both men and women, who actually were teased and bullied growing up, relate to them after the experience I dealt with.  Especially with cyber bullying. I got a glimpse from a friend about a never ending update someone made about me, and I couldn’t even read the whole thing.  Words thrown around like “Desperate”, “Fat F**k”, “Slut” and many others were used so freely mainly from people who I don’t know or barely even met.  I sat there, thinking “what did I do wrong”?

Then it made me think further.  The gay community for the most part, is high school 2.0.  Especially the bears.  It is designed for many men who were in fact teased growing up, to form a group of men and treat others how they were treated for their own satisfaction.  There are ones that do it in a variety of arenas, elitist ones who feel because they go to the gym 5-6 hours a day that they are better than everyone else, and a ton others.  Quite frankly, its pathetic.  Will it ever end? No.  Because the shallow end of the sea is where many men prefer to be.  Many need to grow up and realize what they are doing to others is wrong.  I am not the only one that has endured this, I know several personally that do it.  It is a sick cycle that I wish would just stop.

I think Dan Savage and his whole “It Gets Better” movement really is a fantastic one, and I completely get it.  Sadly, these kids who do realize it does get better and come out (which is already a hurdle in itself) have to face a whole other hurdle in coming into the gay community.  My advice to everyone is stay strong, be yourself, and fuck what everyone else thinks.  I learned that the hard way, but I am glad to have that mentality.  If you go through life always knowing who you are and are secure in that aspect, you won’t let these douchebags get you down in the least.  Be you.

Thanks for listening to my rant 🙂

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, LIFESTYLE, NEW YORK, OPINION, U.S. Tagged With: atlanta, bear, bullying, community, gay, NEW YORK, providence, rhode island, teased

Neon Boots, Scarf Clips, and Wow That’s Too Much: Fashion Tips From The HonestFrugalChaos Style

by Ryan Shea

HonestFrugalChaos is about to shake up Manhattan with these fashion tips from my HFC signature style. Enjoy yourself and hopefully these tips will inspire you and your style!

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Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, FASHION, LIFESTYLE, STYLE Tagged With: be you, Bold fashion, brooches, Clashing look, costume jewelry, fashin on a budget, HFC Signature Look, hfc style, jewelry, MD Fashion, necklaces, Neon boots, NEW YORK, pins, Scarf clip, stay weird, style tips, Styling by HonestFrugalChaos, vintage, vintage jewelry, vintage pins, vintage scarf clip

Nasty Pig- Edgy meets Fashion (and attractive men)

by Ryan Shea

Abel Ink Blot

If you live in New York City or are visiting, there is always the option to go to a variety of amazing clothing stores, both ones on a national level and ones that are local to the greatest city in the world.  As great as the national ones are (and not so great) there happens to be one particular store located in the heart of Chelsea that gets it in many ways.  What do I mean by it?  Eye-catching, edgy, fashion-forward and above all customer service at its best.  I am talking about none other than Nasty Pig, which is celebrating its 20th year in business next year.

I started going to this store roughly two years ago when I moved back to New York City from Rhode Island where I went to college.  The store is moderately sized yet at the same time doesn’t need to be huge and have a zillion signs to get people to buy their stuff.  It speaks for itself with the decor and amazing fashions that they have.  I call it “kink meets edgy” because a lot of their clothing can work in a variety of venues yet still have a unique edge to it.  They have a fantastic use of color and the pattern work is truly amazing.

 

The clothing ranges from the norm such a t-shirts, pants, sweaters, etc but it can go into a completely different realm with a variety of jockstraps and rubber gear as well.  If you are local to NYC and happen to be going to, oh let’s say Boxers or Gymbar, they will have you covered.  At the same time, if you are going to a particular night at the Eagle, they have stuff for that too.  It really is versatile and have great pricing at the same time.

Overall, especially coming from someone who worked in customer service for 3 billion years, this store tops in in terms of that aspect.  When people think of Chelsea, something that always comes to mind is bad attitudes amongst gay men, which happens to be true to a certain extent.  Not in this situation.  You are always greeted when you walk through the door and they are always willing to make that extra step and help you out.  Go see guys like Jay and Chris for example.  You won’t be let down.

Credit goes to Frederick Kerney at Nasty Pig
Credit goes to Frederick Kerney at Nasty Pig

Dave Hughes, the VP of Marketing and Public Relations at Nasty Pig, had this to say about 2013-  “In 2013 Nasty Pig has big plans to keep the serious growth we’ve experienced in the last two years going. At our NYC flagship we’re going to continue to offer our popular Choice Cuts limited edition items, and this year the line will expand to include hyper-limited-edition swimwear; we know that Nasty Pigs all over enjoy their time at the beach, so our swimwear program will also be extended to our wholesale accounts and website customers. Without getting too deep into the details, this spring we will partner with a major NYC-based LGBTQ charity on a project that we hope will raise a lot of money and a lot of awareness for some of our community’s most at-risk members. Additionally, we’re going to follow up the successful launch of our #iamNASTYPIG campaign with new video content throughout the year. And of course we’ll keep releasing plenty of hot gear that gets our customers laid, including our largest Spring/Summer collection ever and plenty of hot new underwear.”

So as stated before, if you are local to the NYC area, go and check it out.  If you happen to be far, go on the site.  You will not be disappointed.

Nasty Pig

265A West 19th Street

New York City, NY 10011

(212) 691-6067

www.nastypig.com

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, FASHION, LIFESTYLE, NEW YORK Tagged With: Bold fashion, fashion, mens, NEW YORK

Islanders Pick Up A Nice W, While The Knicks and Rangers Each Drop One At MSG

by Ed Tierney

There are two professional sports traditions in the New York Metro area every Martin Luther King day. Every MLK day both the New York Islanders and the New York Knicks host matinees as most people are off from work while all are off from school to honor the American Icon. This year it was no different as the Islanders hosted the Tampa Bay Lightning and the Knickerbockers entertained the Brooklyn Nets.

 

First to the ice.

UNIONDALE, N.Y. David Ullstrom scored early in the third period which would give Islanders a dominant four goal lead, but I will divert to the ole’ adage “it aint over till the fat lady sings”. Tampa Bay would score the next 3 and would

Evgeni Nabokov made 23 saves in the victory on the Island
Evgeni Nabokov made 23 saves in the victory on the Island

cool off the young crowd at the coliseum. Luckily for their fans the Isles would escape with a narrow victory as mental mistakes and errors, which would lead to crucial penalties, would mar the final few minutes.

Jack Capuano the coach of the Islanders would take part in his first game of the season as he missed Saturday’s opening night as he was hospitalized due to surgery to remove a kidney stone. Michael Grabner, Matt Martin and Kyle Okposo would also light the lamp in addition to Ullstrom. For the Lightning Martin St.Louis, Benoit Pouliot and 2012 NHL scoring leader Steven Stamkos would tally in the loss. Both Teams are 1-1 with 2 points. The Islanders next contest will be Thursday as they head north of the border for a conference matchup vs Toronto.

 

The afternoon finale on the Hardwood.

The suddenly mediocre New York Knicks hosted the upstart Brooklyn Nets. The Knicks have play once in a week as they traveled across the Atlantic for a game verse Detroit this past Thursday. The Knicks would come into MLK day dropping their previous two MLK contests. Would traveling and jet lag fatigue be a factor?

NEW YORK, NEW YORK: Former All star Joe Johnson made a go-ahead shot with 22 seconds left as his 25 points would lead the Black & White from Brooklyn to a 88-85 over there rivals from Manhattan. In the first year of the Brooklyn Nets they would split the 4 game regular season series. The Knicks who came into the day with a two game division lead had it cut 1 as suddenly they are reeling on their home floor.

Three Nets players would register double doubles including Kris Humphries who was a spark plug off the bench. Carmelo Anthony for the Knicks would drain 29 points but would come up short in the fourth quarter shooting 0-6 from the field. Melo looked tired and drained as his baseline attempt in the final minute looked deflated. Melo would gain separation from the defender and come up with a great look from 12 feet, but looked lethargic in the actual execution. The Knicks are 4-6 in their last ten while Brooklyn is 9-1. It doesn’t get much easier for NYK as they will head to Boston Thursday for a 8pm contest vs the Celtics. Brooklyn is 12-2 since PJ Carlesimo took over as head coach December 27th.

Joe Johnson Scores a basket with under :30 seconds to play to send Brooklyn back to the 718 with a victory
Joe Johnson Scores a basket with under :30 seconds to play to send Brooklyn back to the 718 with a victory

Injury Report:

Amare Stoudemire (Damaged Knee Tissue Debridement Surgery) would play 27 minutes which is the most he has since complaining of knee soreness on January 7th. This was Amare’s 8th contest of the season; in those he has averaged 10.4 PPG while averaging 20.8 minutes.

Iman Shumpert (Torn ACL & Meniscus) scored 2 points and played 20 minutes, which is his limit per game to start. As his season progresses he is expected to extend those minutes based on a timetable and overall comfort. Shumpert’s defense which is his staple is almost on point, which shooting and timing will get better with more playing time.

 

Sunday (Jan 20)

NEW YORK, NEW YORK – With this lockout shortened 48 game season has commenced every day is double as important. The Pittsburgh Penguins have four points and lead the Atlantic Division. On the Flipside the Vegas favorite New York Rangers and Philadelphia Flyers have zero. With the season being so short, it is never to early to look a head to the post season. When Pascal Dupuis tallied the Penguins fourth goal of the game just 29 minutes into the contest it would chase the reigning Vezina Trophy winner Henrik Lunqvist in favor of back up Martin Biron. All en route to a 6-3 Penguins victory. “Personally, it was a tough night,” Lundqvist said. “I don’t really have a good explanation. I just have to keep working hard and try to get better. “I understand the decision. It’s a game where right from the get-go, it felt like the puck was really bouncing my way.”

“I don’t think we’re pushing panic buttons,” said new Rangers addition Rick Nash. “It’s not the start we wanted. We’ve got to get back to work. There are a lot of mistakes out there we have to correct. It’s a short season, so we’ve got to correct them fast.”

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, NEW YORK, SPORTS Tagged With: Brooklyn, Carmelo, ISLANDERS, KNICKS, NBA, NEW YORK, NHL, NYC, RANGERS, SPORTS

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