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Album Review: Darkside – Psychic

by Rio Toro

DARKSIDE-PSYCHIC

Darkside: Psychic

Similar Artists: Pink Floyd, Eric Clapton, Ricardo Villalobos, Nicolas Jaar

Genre: Experimental, Downtempo, Blues, Psychedelia

Label: Other People/Matador

 

I’ve spent a good deal of time wondering whether Psychic, the debut album from Darkside — a collaborative project between experimental electronic wunderkind Nicolas Jaar and blues guitarist David Harrington — should be compared to Jaar’s previous work. This question specifically relates to the album Space Is Only Noise, which in recent years has become something of a classic among downtempo electronica. It must be said, the music these two are making here is pretty out there, and it’s clear Jaar is trying to escape his already unorthodox roots by immersing himself in something that is even harder to put your finger on. Why someone would want to escape the near unanimous praise of their debut album is another question all together, and probably one worthy of a separate article.

Darkside is an odd pairing not because it can’t be compared to the artists’ previous work, but because Jaar’s psychedelia inspired electronic noodling is paired against such traditional 6 string guitar riffing that it is at times laughable; the Clapton-esque “Heart” is particularly hard to take seriously. This feeling comes out from Jaar’s vocals as well — which by the way have never sounded as gorgeous — and his tone carries a sense of intended irony on tracks like “Paper Trails”. It’s not off-putting, just curious, as it makes one wonder if the entire project is intended to be a parody of Pink Floyd records.

This intentional self-parody is not a consistent force through the length of the album though. Most of the album — including the 11 minute opening track, “Golden Arrow” — is dead serious, and it can at times be forceful enough to throw you out of your chair. Before I get nitpicky, I must state the album’s most obvious claims: the production and mixing here are utterly flawless. The sounds are palpable in their thickness and magnitude, and although the tone is often “dark”, every element is enshrined in a warm and radiant overcoat. At it’s best, Psychic is an album with loads of personality.

Unfortunately, the album as a whole can’t be called very personable. It’s an album that’s just begging for you to listen to it while under the influence, because once you are, you’ll likely be sucked in from the first note to the last. Unfortunately, it doesn’t impress quite so easily in our native world. Although the 60’s inspired guitar lines are easy to poke fun at, there could actually be more of them, as too often are we suspended among suspecting ambience. It’s during the most maximalist moments — where the heavy baseline pours in and the groove sticks to a solid 4/4 — that turn out to be the most arousing. “Freak, Go Home” might be the track that is most relatable to the Nicolas Jaar of yore, with its slyly delectable house motifs and morphing Villalobos inspired backdrops. “Greek Light” is another highlight, and we see Nicolas Jaar’s yearning falsetto take on a new role as his voice becomes looped within itself and draped against sun-drenched guitar chords.

The album is filled with great ideas such as these, but it’s only “Golden Arrow” that can rightfully stand on its own. It’s a beautifully evolving track that evokes mystery and entrigue amongst carefully thought out musical dynamics. If the rest of the tracks are the sound of Nicolas Jaar And Dave Harrington jamming and experimenting in the studio, “Golden Arrow” feels like a thoughtfully planned out spectacle of musical precision.

When I first heard of Darkside, I wasn’t particularly excited for the project, and their initial 2010 EP didn’t happen to raise many of my hairs either. Psychic, however, makes it clear that the project can work wonders if enough thought is put into the compositions. Nicolas Jaar has succeeded (again) in remaining an unpredictable musical figure with a bountiful array of talent. As this channels a new kind of energy than his previous work, it also shows the importance of collaboration in terms of broadening an artist’s longevity. While it’s just shy of being a complete statement, it does nothing but complement its creators attributes. For those who think that Nicolas Jaar is one of the most important producers of our time, this does nothing to change that.

 

Track Listing:

1.) Golden Arrow*

2.) Sitra

3.) Heart

4.) Paper Trails*

5.) The Only Shrine I’ve Ever Seen

6.) Freak, Go Home*

7.) Greek Light*

8.) Metatron

 

Album Highlight – *

Filed Under: ENTERTAINMENT, MUSIC, OPINION, REVIEWS Tagged With: ", Album Review, darkside, David Harrington, experimental, Nicolas Jaar, psychedelic, psychic

The greatest announcement since……last year!

by Brian Booher

Did you hear the biggest news in the history of forever?  This is going to bigger than sliced bread!!  It’s so amazing I can hardly hold in my excitement!  Nothing like this has been announced since….last year!

What could it be that drives so many people crazy?  Well, we know it’s nothing out of Washington D.C., so it has to be something bigger.

That’s right!  Apple is going to have another product announcement on October 22, 2013.

(Queue screaming teenagers at a rock concert)

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In case you don’t follow everything Apple, the subject at this announcement on Tuesday will be new iPads.    If this event follows the same idea as the September announcement of the new iPhone 5S and iPhone 5C, then we will also see new covers for the iPads too.

There is also the expectation of the new Mac OS “Mavericks” to be released and also the new Mac Pro.

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This is an exciting time for all the Apple fans out there.  I wonder how many people will call in sick on Tuesday to watch this announcement, whether Apple possibly streams it on their website or they watch it with people like Leo Laporte of TWiT or CNET.

I, of course, will be covering all the news from that day.  Maybe someday I will actually be able to travel to an Apple event and see the announcement in person.

Stay tuned!

Have Fun and Geek Out!

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, TECHNOLOGY

The journey of a thousand blogs begins with the first post

by Brian Booher

Greetings readers!  I am Brian Booher.  I am the new tech blogger for ManhattanDigest.com.  I will be making blog posts from the vast world of computers and electronics.  Everything from the ongoing battle between iOS and Android, to what’s cool in the video game arena, to the new products and services coming out intended to make our lives better.

I have been working in the computer support field for almost a decade.  In that time I found that the best kind of support I can give is face to face with people.  I believe that anyone can become a certain level of computer geek, it’s just a matter of explaining the technology in a way that makes sense to most people.  Working with people on computer problems face to face also allows me to interact with them that you just can’t do on the phone.  Let’s be honest here, who get’s excited about calling tech support when their computer starts to act weird?

As for blogging, I have been involved with that for at least the past 5 years.  I have posted several reviews of products such as the 2012 edition of the Nexus 7, iPad 3, Apple Tv, 5th generation iPod touch, etc.  Yes, most of those items I listed are Apple products, but I am not a die-hard Apple fan.  I prefer to stay technologically neutral as it will allow me to write better blogs and reviews if I can eliminate as much bias as possible.  I like the give the good, the bad, and the ugly sides of products that I can get my hands on.

As for what technology I use, I like to go for “the best of both worlds” or multiple worlds.  I do not want to lock myself down totally to one system.  I don’t like the idea of becoming jealous because some kind of technology that I don’t have can do something that something I do have does not.  I own an Android phone and an iPod touch (Android/iOS).  I own a Mac and a PC.  I own an Xbox 360, Playstation 3, and Wii.

I am very active on social networking, especially the big 3: Google+, Facebook, and Twitter.  I post a lot from Google+ which is then sent to my Facebook and Twitter accounts using a service called Friends+me.

Follow me at any or all of these sites:

Google+

Facebook

Twitter

I look forward to blogging on the latest tech news of the day on ManhattanDigest.com.  I look forward to keeping people informed on what is out there and what is to come, but also improving my skills as a blogger to become better and better as time moves forward.

Now if you will excuse me, I need some time to start thinking of what to write for my first review.

Have Fun and Geek Out!

Filed Under: TECHNOLOGY

Reign Mixes Prestige And Popular Like Oil And Water

by Michael Tyminski

Adelaide Kane as Mary, Queen of Scots (Source: CW)
Adelaide Kane as Mary, Queen of Scots (Source: CW)

Reign: Thursdays at 9 Eastern on the CW

There’s something about the period piece in both film and television that innately whispers in your ear the word prestige. Part of this is because such films are often rolled out this time of year in an attempt to collect large numbers of Oscars (Shakespeare in Love and last year’s Les Miserables being two such examples). However, in the recent past, period pieces have also been a staple of the cable networks in their attempt to steal eyeballs and critical regards from the big four (HBO had Rome and now has Boardwalk Empire, AMC built an empire on Mad Men). So needless to say, it was to my surprise when the CW elected to pick up Reign, an attempt on mixing the period piece with the CW standard box of tropes.

Reign follows the teenaged Mary, Queen of Scots (Adelaide Kane) as she goes to France in an attempt to secure a political marriage with the dashing Prince Francis (Toby Regbo). Things, however, are made more complicated when Francis is not ready to sign such a deal due to both his uncertainty of an alliance with Scotland as well as a desire not to be committed to marriage at this point. The rest of the royal family complicates matters further, as Francis’ brother Bash (Torrance Coombs) has a crush on Mary, while Queen Catherine (Megan Follows) fears that the arranged marriage will ultimately kill her son.

In very many ways, Reign is exactly what you would expect from a CW show if it took place in a castle in 1500 ‘s France. It focuses on the emotions that come with a being a teen, there will be random outbursts, and they’ll even tease a supernatural angle because, well, it’s the CW. Furthermore, it’s pretty evident that the show is using its’ Scots as a proxy for modern sensibilities (nothing like a Mumford and Sons knock off when Mary decides to smash custom when she dances with her maids!) up against the staid French court. This modern re-imagining extends out to other characters, as Nostradamus is treated as a more malevolent force, mixing his traditional prophet and apothecary role with what could loosely be described as shades of Rasputin.

Unfortunately, this CW-ification of history also mars so many of the show’s dramatic scenes. A climactic argument involving the complicated political entanglements ends up coming off with the same raw emotional nerve that one gets when a teen argues with their parents (but I don’t WANT to be in an alliance with Scotland!). In a lot of ways, it’s mildly disheartening that a show focused on the French Court and political intrigue fails spectacularly at producing any sort of intrigue whatsoever (I blame this as much on a network forced excising of a racy scene as I do the writing, which tends to awkwardly embrace two part storytelling – there’s point A and point B, but there’s no road between the two).

Everything else, in terms of both the technical and acting, is best described as competent without being particularly mind-blowing. The scenery, particularly inside the castle is lush and opulent, as one would expect of the French court, however, the insistence on both of Henry’s sons running around in leather jackets was fairly off-putting.

The Final Verdict: How one will feel about Reign is dependent on what you’re looking for: If you want a prestigious period piece, Reign will suffer horribly. However, if you view Reign through the lens of the network it’s on, you get a nice fit in terms of what CW programming is all about (with more mature themes and some dubious history thrown in for good measure). I would probably advise one to check it out if they’re into that CW mold, but skip it if you’re looking for some Game of Thrones lite.

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, ENTERTAINMENT, OPINION, REVIEWS, TELEVISION Tagged With: CW, Reign, TV reviews

Considering relocating for a job? I say, YES!

by Chris

http://erikhatch.org/free-relocation-package/

A few months ago I completed a 9.5 hour relocating adventure to my new city all for a fantastic new position. While I am uprooting myself now for the third time in three years, I think I have finally made the right choice:  one based upon a job of a lifetime. 

Yes, I left behind a life I created for the past two years including amazing friendships; relationships; sports teams and most of all my heart. But sometimes life happens for a reason. Not everyone will receive such opportunities in their life however by keeping an open perspective when it comes to geography it could lead you to somewhere new and exciting.

Before just jumping into a relocating situation consider a few things along the way:

1) Analyze the surroundings. Utilize my favorite new city comparison website (http://versus.com). A place you can compare cities across the globe. Check it out, it will surprise you. I may have an extremely optimistic perspective on life but making sure we are aware of what is happening around is pivotal when jumping ship for new opportunity and life adventure.

  • Geographic location Determine where you would like to live the most, yes, this includes the climate.
  • Social Life Consider the social life. No, not necessarily knowing a person in the city you are going to but knowing how the city operates when it comes to social circles. Even if we are in our late 20’s or 30’s or 40’s a social life will assist us in making a smooth transition.
  • Affordability Can you make it by on a day-to-day basis without an exorbitant amount of money coming through? Compare electricity/rental costs or even groceries, you’d be surprised.

2) Go full force with the job search/interview process. Land a job before you leave. It will save you the hassle when you arrive. Typically a person will advise not to move without a job and as a person who has moved quite a bit I would agree here but only to an extent. If you have an opportunity to move and can get by with a day job for a while (i.e. tutoring, serving tables, bagging groceries) by all means, go for it.

  • Save some money
  • Network without turning into that guy who constantly bugs people about not having a job
  • Stay positive!
  • Take classes to further your education. Coding is our generation’s new literacy. Knowing how to code is key to helping you land a successful job.

3) Don’t stop. Once you let up, you will start becoming lazier and lazier. Do not let that overcome you. I am not saying do not take any breaks but be cognizant that your work ethic will pay off in the long run.

And I leave you with Journey.

 

Best of luck and please share your relocating and career success stories!

 

 

Chicago, IL “The Bean” Millennium Park

Filed Under: BREAKING NEWS, BUSINESS, TECHNOLOGY Tagged With: affordability, Business, career, chicago, coding, economy, job, job of a lifetime, journey, manhattan digest, millennial, relocation, social life, social media, technology, versus.com

Dig Inn’s Sprout To Lunch Contest- Find out more!

by Ryan Shea

Sprout
Credit to: Dig Inn

 

Want to know something really fun that you can get involved in and win food for a freaking month!  Dig Inn, a seasonal market that serves high quality and flavorful foods in its 5 New York City locations,  launched a campaign last week – surrounding Dig Inn’s favorite fall “picnic pint,” the brussels sprout.  They are encouraging New Yorkers to enjoy the last few weeks of nice weather and to take photos of their favorite outdoor lunch space with their picnic pint of Dig Inn brussels sprouts (their #1 seller in the fall), using the hashtag #SproutToLunch.

A local farmer will choose one lucky winner on October 24th (which is Food Day) and that person will win a free month of lunch on us (nice way to start saving for the holiday season by not having to pay for lunch for a month). They are also donating 10% of sales we make on our brussels sprouts to Slow Food NY, which helps Organic & Sustainable Farm to Restaurant Producer Summit.  I sat down with CEO of Dig Inn Adam Eskin who told me more about the campaign and Dig Inn as a whole.  Check it out.

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Credit to: Dig Inn

 

How long has Dig Inn been in business?

Dig inn has been around for 2 years – we became official in September 2011 after transforming a pre-existing concept.

How did you come up with the name and concept for Dig Inn?  

Eating well has always been on my radar, and as my team and I learned more about food – how it is grown/raised, why it is so important to eat naturally raised meats, etc, we realized there was a big opportunity to do something disruptive in the restaurant space, akin to what Whole Foods did to grocery.  We have worked with a couple of brilliant guys in Brooklyn for years now – Dave and Mark of Dark Igloo.  It took us the better part of a year, but we love what we’ve created thus far including how it continues to take shape. It was important for us to develop a name that stood for the enjoyment of eating and the celebration of sitting down for a fresh, quality home cooked meal.

What sets you apart from other fast food restaurants? 

Three things I think: the quality of the food we serve, and the price and speed with which we serve it.  We have developed a model that allows us to serve a fresh, healthful, delicious meal (sourced locally, with lots of veggies and naturally raised meats) for under 10 bucks, in under 10 minutes (with a line to the door, that is).

What would you say is your most popular dish and why?  

Besides the brussels sprouts, of course, the local roasted beets w/ toasted pumpkin seeds recipe has been a real winner this season – a new fan favorite.

Explain the importance behind what you are doing with Sprout To Lunch?

 The #stl campaign is 100% in support of slow food – a movement for which we are extremely passionate. Slow down to enjoy a meal outside before the weather turns, support the local farm that grew, harvested and delivered this food, and support Slow Food NYC by making a small donation. There is so much we can do to reverse the the effects of our industrial food chain – we just need to raise awareness and get everyone involved in any way we can.

What do you think would make a good winner?

I would love to see someone atop the Empire State Building…or maybe going for a ride on the Hudson River – sounds like a relaxing lunch break to me.

So check out Dig Inn’s main page for more information on this great contest, locations, food and so much more.  This is going on until Thursday, October 24th.  Good luck to whomever wins!

Filed Under: FOODIE, LIFESTYLE Tagged With: brussel sprouts, dig inn

2014 Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Nominees – A Completely Biased Look

by Peter Foy

If that title sounds a little on the nose, than it should be. I don’t regularly know jack-shit about the annual results of The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame induction process, nor have I ever desired too. Seeing that my I-pod basically functions as a second phallus for me, however, a lot of people seem to think I keep up to date with developments in popular music like this, but frankly I’m too busy listening to (insert relatively obscure 90s indie band here) to care what’s playing on the radio these days. So when my editor asked me if I wanted to write an opinion piece on who will get into the Hall of Fame this year…I immediately jumped at the opportunity! So here is my (minutely researched) views on 2014’s nominees!

Who Will Likely Get In…

Nirvana

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Whether it’s out of sympathy for Kurt, or the fact that they were the most important rock band of the 90s that wasn’t named Pavement or Radiohead, the Seattle grunge trio is pretty much the only sure-fire bet

Yes

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For years people have been saying how unjust it is that the progressive rock god-fathers King Crimson have never even received a nomination from the institution, so maybe placing a more successful prog rock band in their ranks will silence the haters….or actually potentially make them even more angry!

Peter Gabriel

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Well Genesis already made the cut…

Cat Stevens

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Ricky Gervais loves him, so why can’t we all?

The Zombies

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They’re a British Invasion band…why the fuck aren’t they inducted already!?

Who Should Get In…

The Replacements

The-Replacements

They picked up where the Buzzcocks left off and made punk even more accessible to the masses, but they did it in an even more mature and refined way. Thing is…it’s not likely they’ll get in before The Smiths do.

N.W.A.

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It would be a great double whammy for hip-hop heads if N.W.A. got in this year as Public Enemy did last, but the west coast gangsta pioneers are a little too violent and profane to grace The Hall just yet.

LL Cool J

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Certainly an odd choice amongst this year’s nominees, but I feel he’d fit nicely in the hall’s progression towards incorporating hip-hop into their historical component. It’s important that people realize he was the first rapper to…sell-out?

…and Who the Fuck Are These Guys?

The Paul Butterfield Blues Band

Chic

Hall and Oates

Linda Ronstadt

Link Wray

Easiest post I ever wrote. As David Bowie would say: “Wham, bam, thank you Ma’mm!”

Filed Under: ENTERTAINMENT, MUSIC

The Lone Bellow – Debut Album

by Pamela Gordon

The Lone Bellow
The Lone Bellow

Listening to my “OLD FAITHFUL” radio station 90.7 WFUV one autumn afternoon, a voice came through the speakers of my car. I said to myself, “Is this some sort of compilation featuring Steven Tyler?” I listened hard and still couldn’t figure out and reached for my Shazam app for assistance. THE LONE BELLOW – YOU DON”T LOVE ME LIKE YOU USED TO.

 

 

 

After a little research, it turns out that Steven Tyler has nothing to do with THE LONE BELLOW. The group is actually from Brooklyn, NY who formed after the lead singer Zach Williams, wife suffered temporary paralysis. He learned to play the guitar and discovered that his vocal range was extraordinary and began to pursue his career. THE LONE BELLOW now consists of Brian Elmquist on Guitar and Vocals, and Kanene Donehey Pipkin on mandolin and vocals.
The harmonies created by the group are clean and cut. Replicating the sound of a fine trained choir while beckoning the American Folk Rock genre. To have such a clean sound with this genre really makes THE LONE BELLOW stand out with the best.
In their opening track “Green Eyes And A Heart Of Gold”, they set the mood with a train like enthusiasm of getting up and going. He keeps his lyrics simple but not boring. Where some groups simply repeat their chorus, verse or bridge (middle 8), Zach Williams recreates it. During the first half of this track, he has a sub chorus / verse that starts of as “We’re Broke in NYC…”. It is sung simply with the standard melody of the song, and then in the last half of the track he breaks it out again but almost as a bridge, where you can’t even distinguish that the two sections are one in the same aside from the lyrics being identical.

Probably my favorite, and I think their first single is “Bleeding Out”. Harnessing the power of the three to create a beautiful trio of harmony, in a Vienese Waltz, while having a more rock edge with a folk sound. The literal beating of the drums lets you feel the emotional beating that Williams experienced while his wife was suffering. I imagine him walking down the streets with the weight of the world on his shoulders expressing
All the buildings, they lean and they smile down on us
And they shout from their roof tops, words we can’t trust
Like you’re dead, you are tired
You’re ruined, you’re dust
Oh you will amount to nothing, like tanks full of rust
But we scream back at them
From below on the street
All in unison we sing, at times, been redeemed
We are all of the beauty, that has not been seen
We are full of the color, that’s never been dreamed
Well, nothing we need ever dies, yeah

The group is full of passion, harmony and simplicity. THE LONE BELLOW is on the radar to be one of those break out groups and with a little bit more promotion, touring and street cred, this group has the potential to share the spot light with groups like Mumford and Sons and The Punch Brothers. Tomorrow night the debut their first show at Carnegie Hall. So if you’re in the area, I’d grab tickets and get the full LONE BELLOW EXPERIENCE.

Filed Under: ENTERTAINMENT, MUSIC, uncategorized Tagged With: 90.7, Brian Elmquist, folk, Kanene Pipkin, lone bellow, rock, The Lone Bellow, WFUV, You Don’t Love Me Like You Used To, Zach Williams

A Newbie At Comic Con Part 1

by David Baxter

nyccNew York Comic Con. Not affiliated with San Diego Comic Con, for those of you keeping score. Now, I’ve never been to ANY cons, since 1) I’m lazy and 2) have been broke for a long, long time. Basically, that meant that, back in Texas, I was constantly telling myself that I was totally going to go to A-Kon in Dallas, but never getting my stuff together to actually GO to A-Kon. Well, this year, all that changed and I was able to make my way to NY Comic Con. Pretty big way to start, right? [Read more…] about A Newbie At Comic Con Part 1

Filed Under: ENTERTAINMENT Tagged With: comic con, nerd, new york comic con, NYCC

If I Lose Weight Do I Lose The Bears As Well?

by Ryan Shea

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I can honestly say that weight, just like aging and the ever presence of The Kartrashians (spelled correctly folks) is an ever present issue in someone’s life.  When it comes to dealing with weight in the bear community, it takes on a whole new world of self-criticizing, self-loathing, comparisons to other guys and so on and so forth.  Yes of course this can be translatable to any community, any age, any arena.  For me as a gay man, it has been a constant struggle to keep up with.

I never saw myself as being obese.  I was lucky enough to grow up in an area that accepted me for the most part for being gay.  I think because I had such a big personality growing up that people were drawn to me and didn’t see me as the “gay” kid or the “fat” kid they really just saw me as Ryan.  At the same time, I knew subconsciously that I was fat.  I quit football after my freshman year due to my insecurity in being gay and on such a masculine and homophobic (to a certain degree) sport.  That was when the weight problems came on due to not being apart of any sports team and due to my struggle with being a homosexual.

To make matters worse for myself, I was in an area with little to no gay men or women so my references were little except if I would watch Will & Grace or something gay themed on a cable channel.  So I struggled with finding my identity which led to overeating.  When I was 18 and went away to school in Providence, Rhode Island was where I truly was able to begin the process of finding myself as a gay man seeing as there were multiple outlets around me for that self discovery.  At the same time, I really didn’t focus on my weight and mainly focused on determining factors like who am I in this community, what kind of guys am I into, etc etc.  Down the line though is where I started to realize that I fit into the bear community due to the “stereotypical” aspects of being a bear like more weight and body hair.

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I look like a picnic blanket.

 

By the time I was 21 or 22 I was tipping the scale at 270.  Yes, 270.  And I had no fucking idea that it was getting that bad. Even my first real relationship with a guy I later on came to find that he wanted me to be a “gainer”. Look it up,  it’s odd but there is no judgement there.  There were so many types of guys that I would try to talk to online and many of them rejected me or didn’t message me back.  The only types of guys that seemed to be into me were other heavyset dudes and “Chasers” which are defined as smaller guys who happen to like a big dude.  Problem for me was these two types are ones that I wasn’t into.  I was into the Scott Caan’s and the Chris Pratt’s but at the same time I could go for Chris Meloni’s and LL Cool J’s.  I really just wanted the type of guy who took care of himself but at the same time could eat and not bitch about the calories.  You know, huskular.

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Progress.

By the time I was 24 was when I finally figured it out and started the process or “journey” of losing weight.  I lost roughly 55 pounds in a matter of a year and people really started to notice.  What was even better was the guys that would usually not talk to me online were actually reaching out to me not vice versa.  It really made me excited and happy because I felt some ubiquity in that I could finally attract a different aesthetic which is what I have been wanting ever since I was fourteen or fifteen.  In the past three years I have yo-yo’d back and forth gaining and losing 15 pounds but never really dealing with an extreme on either end.

Selfie.
Selfie.

 

Now I am at a place where I want to take it to the next step and get down to roughly 170-180, which would put me at a smaller frame.  The problem for me is that i don’t want to feel that I am rejected again by a certain portion of the community because I am not technically a “bear’ anymore and even though it might sound self absorbed but I enjoy that I attract a decent portion of it.  If I get a six pack or get skinny, what happens?  Where do I go from there?  I find it very frustrating to deal with because health should really be a top priority but when it comes to finding a date, mate or sex even, you want it to be a mutual attraction and not a fetish, which seems to populate a lot of this community as well.  Ultimately I just want to figure out a way where I can blur the lines so that I am not labeled and can adapt to any sub-community that is out there.

I put this on my Facebook and got a great amount of responses, many of them saying for me to focus on myself and not on what other people think.  One friend said- “Honestly, I don’t think that should figure into what you decide to do. If they view you differently, so be it, but don’t make that your problem. Besides, your friends should treat you the same way no matter what.”.  Similarly I got a response like “You gotta do you. at the end of the day, other people are not responsible for your health, paying your bills, or paying your damn rent.  Be yourself and people will like you for who you are, the people that leave are what you leave in the toilet; basically just floaters.”

On the contrary I had a couple of friends say its not that easy, where friends have said this situation rings true for them as well.  One summed it up the best though for this (Mainly because they use a “Drag Race” reference and that always gets me going)- “I don’t know what, if anything, the bear community feels as a whole, but why should that matter? If you want to lose weight, for whatever reason, you should do it, regardless of what a demographic has to say about it. Whoever doesn’t like it can bite the wienie. As they say on RuPaul’s Drag Race, you just do YOU. Whatever makes you happy, man.”

What is your take on this?

Filed Under: LIFESTYLE, OPINION Tagged With: bear, chaser, chris pine, college, Facebook, gainer, gay, Gay Community, jake gyllenhaal, LL Cool J

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